“I take 2 steps forward, I take 2 steps back. We come together, because opposites attract.” Like the lyrics to the Paula Abdul song say opposites attract. It’s a common cliché, but is this really true? Can two different people attract and stay attracted?
We’ve all had those moments where we met someone so different from us that we both felt intrigued or perhaps attracted to them. But when their type B and your type A, can your differing perspectives actually make you both “click?” Your relationship might work temporarily, but in the long term probably not. According to a study in the Daily Mail, opposites definitely do NOT attract. Researchers from the University of California at Berkeley claim “like is drawn towards like. Individuals on the dating market will assess their own self-worth and select partners whose social desirability approximately equals their own.”
The idea of opposites attracting is a romantic notion we like to believe, but most of us don’t apply it to our own real lives. Maybe the reason we think we want someone different from us is because we think it would be boring to be married to our “twin.” But, in the long term we realize that someone with similar values validates our feelings and views and gives us the feeling of being understood and secure.
What do you think? Can opposites stay attracted? Please leave a comment below.
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