Here on Yahoo! Answers we get lots of questions about what makes a person attractive. Is it physical beauty, personality, common interests, or money? What makes us approach others is physical attraction, but what makes us like and eventually fall in love is confidence.
So what does being confident mean? What does it feel and look like? According to merriam-webster.com self confidence is “confidence in oneself and in one’s powers and abilities” or in simple terms you are fine to be who you really are, without shame or embarrassment.
Fear and rejection are one of the many reasons many people lack confidence. But being confident is not synonymous for perfection. Instead, it’s about loving yourself, not being afraid of rejection, accepting your flaws, but working on improving them, and not relying on others to determine your self worth. People that come across as confident know what they want in terms of goals, relationships and life, and this in turn projects, strength, courage, security, intelligence and maturity. It’s the opposite of neediness, clinginess, insecurity and attention seeking behavior. The former qualities are alluring and intriguing, it eases and gives us comfort because the person isn’t seeking validation, she or he is whole, and will handle the ups and downs of a relationship.
In order to have confidence you have to have a solid sense of who you are. In other words you see the real person, but that doesn’t mean you tell everything about yourself at once – the opposite in fact, there is no rush. Real love can be cherished and maintained when you can open your heart and not be judged, but accepted with an equally open heart.
So, how do you discover your true self? What prevents you from being yourself? Do you ever find yourself pretending to be someone else in your professional and personal relationships? And why do you think confidence is so attractive?? Please leave a comment below.
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