Hey Baby, What’s Your Sign?
On a Friday night at a crowded club, I was doing the single girl thing — you know, drinking overpriced drinks and looking disaffected when a guy leaned over to me and said:
“Heeeey, is your shirt expensive? ‘Cuz you look so hot in it, I could totally rip it off of you right now. But I would totally replace it, if it’s not too expensive.”
I chuckled awkwardly, and then frantically looked for the exit sign.
Later that night, my friends and I had fun laughing about this frugal-minded Romeo. But we wondered: Why do men use these silly lines, and do they ever work? Most single women I know have endless stories about bad pickup lines that make us cringe and run for the door. These lukewarm icebreakers can run from the typically cheesy (”If I could rearrange the alphabet, I would put U and I together.”) to the creepy (”I’m new in town — can I have the directions to your apartment?”). It’s hard to imagine any woman falling for these come-hither tactics.
I’ll admit that approaching a stranger at a bar takes a lot of nerve — even women have trouble coming up with ways to start a conversation with men. But most women will agree that a clever come-on line is a big turn off and likely to backfire. A better approach might simply be a friendly smile or “hello” followed by genuine conversation.
Ladies, how are you likely to respond to an obvious pickup line, and what would you recommend as an alternative? Gentlemen, what do you think is the best way to approach women?
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well if the pick up line is a clever,spontaneous & fresh one, guess it’s cool. i guess men use these pick up lines on girls ‘cos if the girls used it on them, it would work fine. so the guys are thinkin’ “why not,? if it works on us why cant it be vice verse ?
moreover,pick up lines help u distinguish between the so called “romeo” who is harmless , from jack the ripper types who are serious faced & deadly !
Although many men find meeting women to be intimidating, my personal experience has always been to be upfront and a bit bold without coming across as pushy or arrogant.
My preferred opening is to ask a lady if she would like to chat over a drink on me, then tell her my name which is odd enough to get a response. I then tell her my mother was born in Ireland and that my name is more common in Europe than here in the states. Hopefully (and more often than not) this will allow us to talk for a while and then she can ask for the other details that she desires.
I don’t do guys who use pickup lines. They are not being themselves, which is what most girls like.
i always wondered the same thing. why do men even bother with gross stuff like “hey mami, i could show YOU a good time!” that’s not going to make me turn around and throw myself at you and say “OOH, I LOVE THAT!” let alone give the guy a glance. it’s just irritating.
how about “do you need a room mate, cuz I’ll do the job? ” I said no thanx, my son is a pretty good one. old dumb men are the worse….puke.
the hey baby whats your sign is so cute…..my brother and i used to joke about using it until one time he did and it worked!….its harmless and totally innocent unless you approach the occasional ice queen who is offended by being called baby
I don’t mind a pick-up line if it’s genuinely intended to be funny and ironic.
I believe that pick up lines,especially silly or funny ones are often used as an icebreaker versus being a pick up line. I think after one is said to a lady she may be a little easier to chat with or her chuckling or him giving the compliment(if that is what it is) is an icebreaker for a further conversation a lot of times. However, I just hate when guys are persistent with chasing you, talking to you or trying to get with you when you do not desire them to do so. Some girls may break and give the guy a chance when this is done, but I personally hate it and find it quit irritating. Just take no for an answer and leave it alone. I can’t stand it especially because I am not single but guys don’t care have the time and then they ask to be friends,etc.
Yes… I have had my fair share of these. The most recent (and maybe funny) was “Hi my name is ___ and I can do it all night long”. To which I responded “Hi my name is ____ and I do do it all night long… but not with you”. I felt insulted and dirty and responded in a negative way that is not usually my nature.
I think most men find themselves intimidated by women and just do not know the right way to aproach a woman. Lets be honest, women have the same problem. There is a good lookin guy in the corner, no ring on his finger and looking rather alone. Still, walking over and saying “hi” seems to be one of the hardest things we can do. I have no problems starting conversations with people reguardless of gender, yet I find my friends too worried about being turned down to even give it a shot.
Men, Ladies, let me clear things up for you on both sides of the coin. If you go up to a man/woman with honest intent, say hello, introduce yourself and are turned away. That person is not good enough for you to begin with. It is as simple as that, you deserve someone who loves and respects you. If someone decided what kind of person you are at a glance then they are too shallow to find a real partner at this juncture in their lives. So, drop the silly pick up lines, be yourself, learn “hello” as the best way to start a conversation and always be true to yourself. Your lady love or knight in shining armor is just waiting for you to be who you are… with them.
Good luck to all of you!!!
if a guy said that to me, I’d tell him my sign is
EXIT, or better yet, let’s ask my husband your question.
thank God I am not single. Too many walking hormones out there. whew
I don’t do guys who use pickup lines.
I haven’t really had too much experience with pickup lines, but I figure that the cheesier they are, the more desperate the guy is. The more disgusting they are, the slimier the guy is. The weirder they are, the more normal the guy is. I don’t know why, but when guys have really weird pickup lines that aren’t cheesy, gross or stupid, they often turn out to be pretty nice. So really, the pickup line does just determine the guy. And there are so many gross men in bars, I choose not to go there! If you want more normal pickup lines, I suggest going somewhere other than bars, clubs or parties. Of course the street isn’t the best alternative, but if you go somewhere where the people are mostly nice, normal, brought-up-well guys, then you might have a bit more luck. Just remember, though, there’s a pervert in every crowd, no matter who you’re with. Be careful!
Everybody knows pick up lines are nonsense, but, if I must be frank, they’re obviously an effective way to inform a girl that I am romantically interested.
Most men aren’t sharp and suave enough to transform “hi” into a conversation. Certainly not EVERY time they are thinking about hitting on a girl. Conversations don’t “just happen.” They require a source and two strangers do not create a source after “hello, my name is…”
Most girls I know don’t want to have a bunch of mundance details forced down their throat by a stranger. Usually such people are salesman or lonely wierdos, not potential husbands.
Pick-up lines exist to make way for a means to begin a conversation easily, and, honestly, they’re a lot less creepy than, “Hey, I think you’re hot. Um, would you like to talk to me???” Saying something like that makes no sense. And if you women are too ignorant to realize that that little phrase there is all that’s behind every awkward line, every suave line, and every pick-up line, then you got another thing coming. Let it be. Enjoy it. Some of them are funny.
OR don’t go out alone, dressed beautifully, to bars and clubs and such places where men will want to hit on you. Those places, like it or not, are designed for people to find ways to get together.
As far as pick-up lines that have are sole aimed at getting a girl in bed are concerned: They don’t work on you because you’re not horny/drunk enough to want what the guy wants (or at least, not at the time of the example you gave). Some girls are. The lines work on them. It’s that simple.
I hate it when guys say those corny pick up lines. If you want a guy is interested in a girl then he should say so.
HAHA OMG priceless!
I do not understand why guys do that! Yet, we do fall for SOME of them. But once a guy does one after the other after the other, you begin to wonder if there’s an OFF button by any hopeful chance!
I think it’d be fun to creep him out haha.
So if he says, “Is it hot in here or is it just you?!” I would say something dumb like, “Well sir I did have a fever yesterday and I have been puking most of the day, but at least I know it’s not just me feeling the weather.” Haha I can imagine their faces lol.
I have a feeling that men use these because
having a genuine conversation is much more
intimidating. It’s a lot harder to be yourself
than me cheesy, clever, or vulgar.
Well if he’s extremely cute, and extremely confident, he can get away with using a cheesy line with me — so long as he and I BOTH know he’s joking.
If he’s not extremely cute, then he’d better quickly show personality, and chat it up with me. I love a friendly guy that has good conversation.
As for a girl talking to guys — that’s simply a no-no to me. Men are by nature hunters. I like being hunted.
Sometimes they can’t think of anything clever to say (besides HI) and women talk about wanting a “funny guy” so often, so they think if you make them laff right off….you have a chance at starting a conversation.
Face it – so many men approach you in a bar..that the guy who made you laff are more interesting than the guy who said “can I buy you a drink?”
Think about it – you talked about him all night after leaving – did you talk about the 100s of guys who said “you need a drink?” or “HI”??? Nope, you didn’t!
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I completely agree with everything being said here. but…..there have been times when a pickup line has been said as a sort of joke, if you will. I’ve met guys with fun, fresh personalities who use a pickup line to show me that they enjoy having fun. you can almost always tell when a guy is coming off as pushy and just in it for a good time. but you can also tell when they want to joke around with and also have a good time. so i would have to say that some pickup lines, if used the right way, are not as terrible as they can sometimes come across as.
Bars aren’t a place to have a “start a genuine conversation” the best they can hope for is to get your attention & have a chance to have coffee (or dinner) afterwards – THEN have a conversation!
Women don’t seem to understand how hard it is to sound clever in a loud, obnoxious bar
Well, I think pick up lines can be kind of funny, but I could never see myself going for one. You’re right a simple hi might work, or even just like “So, have you been here before?” or “Wow, it’s crowded here – is it usually like this?” – and start a conversation. In the movies and real life those lines are thrown out like last season’s jeans. Sorry boys, not going for it.
Most likely, it’s insecurity that causes men to come out with opening lines like the one cited above.
Cut us some slack as men are stupid. These are best lines we can think of.
i;ll never understand girls….
okay so the gross pick up lines that everyone uses are very played out but i think that if you had the nerve to approah me you better be interested in something more than just my face or my ass. once in a great while the gross pick up line they use they epicly fail at delivery that i have to talk to them for a few minutes so as not to crush the poor fella. but again- anyone who has the balls to approah someone has my respect just don’t only come foward with one thing on your mind =)
You are right, a simple hi would do the trick for me. Just this past weekend, I heard the worst, rudest pick up line ever. A guy came to me and asked me if I was going to the funeral. And of course I asked what he was talking about and he replied, my p*nis died and I was wondering if I could bury it in you! Now come on, that one was just plain rude and uncalled for. Guys just use a simple hello and do you come here often.
How about he asking she “Can I buy you a drink?” – works every time for me.
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I think a good opener is necessary for a guy to sweep me off my feet. The problem is, most guys need to rethink what a pick-up line means. Most lines are like the ones in this blog, and all they tell women is that men want to get into bed with us. Flattering, sure, but not charming in the least. I’m a sucker for an opener that makes me feel interesting and shows a guy had a reason higher than my neck to come and talk to me. I know I look good, I took 2 hours before I left trying to look good. Tell me you were intrigued by my pensive expression, or I look like someone who loves life, or the unique spark in my eye dazzled you. I’ll be all over you, promise.
Well u know that oviously some guys are as dumb as a brick so maybie he just had the hots for u!
Pick-Up lines are SO unoriginal. You would think as the world evolves so would men’s tactics on picking up women. I have to admit I can’t help but laugh @ a “man” when he spits his oh-so-clever word play. Of course being non-condisending I playfully add “That’s a cute one I haven’t heard of before!” I try (oh so) hard not to give into his boyish charm. Instead I change the subject to let him know that I’m a woman of worth and that he doesn’t need a pick-up line to find out my name. Even though I may not be interested (especially after his silly attempt), I still think its my duty to point out the flaw in his game plan so that he can learn that…indeed…”we aren’t as stupid as we appear.”
I think most women would agree that we all want what we can’t have. Same goes for men I’m sure. Mystery is key in attracting MY eye. If a guy is sly but still seems interested I’m more likley to pursue. Or inturn more likley to let him pursue me
Pick-up lines can be sweet. But I think they’re hindering more and more men these days.
C’mon fellas! Just say what you feel…not what you read :p
~kay~
erm this isnt really a pickup line…but a guy walked past me once whilst i was at the beach taking a 4 year old girl out for a walk (babysitting) and he seriously watched me the whole we walked towards eachother on this damn pathway. i tried not to make eye contact but as we got with a few feet of eachother, the conversation went like this:
“hi i love you”
“how do you know you love me if you’ve never even met me?”
“its just that you look like a really nice girl…would you like some company?”
“no thanks ive already got great company thats a lot less creepier”
“hey dont be so rude i was just being nice!”
“see? you cant say you love me when you just meet me cos it turns out you really dont like me”
at this, i got a classic reply
“oh yeah? well…well f*** you!”
i quickly walked off with said four year olds eyes averted at a nice looking sand castle up ahead as the middle finger stood prominently behind me just for him to see. a**hole.
be fortunate that you just get a lovely young gentleman kind enough to ask your star sign merely for psychic purposes (giggle)
Yes I agree… I hate pickup lines. I understand its awkward to just walk up and start talking. But you don’t have to do that either. Sometimes they are OK if meant to be funny but they still usually annoy me. What’s my sign? “DO NOT DISTURB!”
Ugh, I agree, those are such a turn off. They’re just embarrassing, I don’t deserve to feel that way when I’ve done nothing but sit there.
Terry doesn’t seem to understand that women don’t want a creep to approach them in a loud, obnoxious bar who don’t want a genuine conversation, just some time in bed.
pick up lines are stupid
learn how to say hi.
It’s not only in bars and clubs where the cheesy lines are handed out! I was at a WalMart one day when a guy approached me and asked if I knew where the address books were. I told him and then he asked if I’d like to be the first entry in it. I said no thanks, I’m married. We both had a good laugh.
I get those crazy pick up lines all the time when Im out. I never talk to any guy that uses them. I think its just lame. However, when a guy comes up to me and asks my name, and starts a casual conversation, Im more likely to respond to him.
Have good posture and body language, don’t waste any time or you’ll end up being a nervous wreck, nerves + approach = a lethal combination. Walk up, confidently, and say … “You just blinded me with your beauty…I’m going to need your name and number for insurance reasons.” This has a 25% chance of working.
Oh fer cryin’ out loud, cut these guys some slack. Chatting about the weather only promts you to roll your eyes and walk away. Admit it, just saying “hello” as you put it just doensn’t cut it. If the lines are cheesy, at least they represent an attempt at being interesting and clever. Give ‘em a chance.
Honestly i find pick up lines kinda cute, like little 7 year old kid to an other, but i don’t think guys wanna seem like their only 7 right?
Sorry if i dint help any.
Guys get desperate sometimes. And you’re too sexy for your shirt.
i dont think its so hard to date i just try to become friends with the girl for a couple of months than i ask her if she want to go out i don’t like people who try to pressure girls so even if the date dostent go right we could still be friends from the local 14 year old.
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When I go out places with the object of meeting guys, I tend to wear something like a sci-fi or video game t-shirt (most of the time I’m pretty informal, I’m more into LAN parties than bars or clubs) so that makes it easier for any guys who might share my interests to walk up to me, look at my hoodie, and say something along the lines of “Hey, you like Transformers? Who’s your favorite?” or even just “Nice shirt!” to start a conversation, as opposed to trying to think of a pickup line or awkwardly fishing for a conversation topic we both might be interested in.
I hate those stupid pickup lines. They come on too strong, and often give us women the feeling of offense and disgust. It makes men look like pigs that want one thing in life: to get into a girl’s pants. Some common offenses to women: Come here often? What’s a babe like you doing in a dump like this? Did someone turn up the thermostat, or are you just REALLY HOT?
Girls prefer a curteous, polite, Hey, maybe followed by a classy “Can I buy you a drink?” It’s an easy and comfortable way to start a conversation or even a relationship.
i used one of those silly lines on a girl once in a bar in hollywood, entirely expecting to be told to f off.. to my surprise she came back with a funny answer and bought me a drink. then she asked me if i minded a hairy p**** and i did a double take, but eventually i truthfully answered that no i didn’t..so we went back to her place and, like, totally did it.
proof that dumbass lines may work, but only when youre not expecting it.
A guy would have to be very tongue-in-cheek to successfully use that kind of line. It can be managed with the proper amount of irony, but only if irony is your specialty. In short, if you’re British, you can probably pull it off; everybody else should stick to a basic, “Hey, I’m So-and-So. What’s your name?”
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I fall for cheezy pick up lines like “Did it hurt when you fell?” and then the girl is like huh? and he goes “From heaven, you sweet angel”
I also have a bad tendency to scare guys off cuz I’m too outgoing, I want to start a conversation with any random stranger I think is hot.
If it were creative and funny, I’d talk to him. But I’d much rather a guy wow me in a different way. I’m not find of head games, so it’d be nicer if he were just like “Hey there, what’s your name?”
The tired old lines never work. However, if you can say something which gets the girl to go “wait, what?” then you’re in with a better chance.
Mine was walking up to a girl at the bar and saying with a big smile on my face “Hey! Buy me an elephant.”
Her response was “Look. I’ve told three other guys already that wait, what?”
“Hi, my name’s James.” Shake her hand and we talked and danced for three hours.
Originality is the key.
Except for your question your column reminded me of Carrie Bradshaw (Sara Jessica Parker) on Sex and the City (which was a wonderful show & the movie was great as well).
I think guys say lines like that because they think women like to hear those type of lines. For some reason the guys feel we are flattered by them and will jump on the guys bandwagon.
Women should be grateful a guy even approaches them in the first place. You have any idea how hard it is to strike up a conversation with a stranger at a bar? And don’t act like you ladies just go to the bar/club to have a drink. You are there to sit on your butt, and have a good looking guy do all the approaching. So if your going to be so damn critical , how bout you all work up the nerve and start asking us men out? Then you can come on here and say how easy and fun it is to risk rejection and embarasement every Friday night. Besides, try and have a sense of humor and appreciate the effort the poor sap put into starting a conversation, not every one can be Rico suave! God, Yahoo answers is so Female.
Well, usually I ask “Has that line EVER worked for you?” And that starts a conversation about his previous awkward experiences which make me laugh.
I do ignore the men, who make some smart remark or brag about their techniques. Blech.
The only time a pickup line would work is if it was a really geeky math or science one.
I always went to Jazz clubs, for the music, to listen. I didn’t go to pick up women. I never bought a woman a drink or a dinner. And I took a lot of women home with me.
As a young boy, around puberty, I didn’t think I was very good looking. Since I didn’t develope a big ego I decieded I’d better find another positive quality that appealed to women (girls, at the time) So I learned to listen to women and how to TALK to them, not try to feed them a line. It worked so well I got to feeling used. They just kept giving me things, aside from the usual.
Sometimes I can talk to a woman for 5 minutes and get propositioned. I think it must be phremones. I can’t post her what pick up line worked best ON me.
That’s another subject, for another day.
For me, if any kind of pick up lines were used on me, I’ll go “Nice try, bud. Try again when hel* freezes over.”
I am a boy that likes girls and have looked at some of these comments. I see that some women are flattered by the pickup lines and like the man back and some that think it’s weird. I say that even though I’ve never tried these pickup lines, maybe the boy talking to you (even though he probably did) didn’t have a girlfriend or wife yet and has tried everything: Maybe he’s desperate and cannot wait any longer, so he overcomes shyness and gets a bit more outgoing like me. I’m not going to say that some girls are ugly, because no girl is ugly. I’m saying that boys look at one girl and can see if she’s pretty and like her, they make a move because they’re not gaining anything by being quiet. If I switched brains and controlled a boy mentioned by a girl in the comments that was dissed and embarrassed, I would use my brain and say to myself I’ll get someone to say yes and deal with being rejected. I study the differences in boys and girl’s brains and have noticed (even though I learned from my EXPERIENCED health teacher in the beginning of the year last year- wait she told me this) that men use their brain more than emotion but can get very agressive. The other thing my health teacher last year told me was the opposite- girls can use their brain, but use their emotions more, and get mad faster than men. As I said before about using my brain, I would be curious and asking questions like crazy like “Why doesn’t she like me?” or SAY something like “I feel so alone,” not yell and get angry.
Here’s the thing. To pick up a woman you have to use confidence, arrogant plus funny humor, and have good body language. It’s true that the easiest way to start up a conversation with a woman is to say “Hello.” I’ve proven that to work all the time. But if you want to create more attraction, you have to come up to them with arrogant and funny humor in mind too. And yes….pick up lines do work if you say it with enough conviction and authority. Most guys don’t and that’s why so many women find them corny and the auto-reject button inside them lights up.
If you look at the example you used above….his first mistake was using sex initially. That makes him come off as desperate and looking at a woman strictly as a sexual object. Tell me how a woman is attracted to a desperate horndog? Second part is he offers to buy you a new shirt. What’s so funny about being needy that you’re willing to spend money on a woman for her attention? Yes it was a corny pickup line, but the fact that he used that one and probably seemed wussy and insecure saying it…or just goofy saying it….the auto-reject button lit up.
If you want to use pick-up lines, use one that teases her. For example “I like your outfit. Did you buy it new?”
The moral is…I’ve learned that it’s not what you say to a woman to create attraction…but how you say it.
haha it really depends on the type of guy.
if i havnt noticed the guy and he comes up creepy like and throws a cheesy pick up line.. its a no way jose
but if ive noticed a guy around and then he comes up i might give a chance.
I have never used pick up lines. I figured that they would never work. Maybe that is why I never dated very much as a young person. I usually looked for signs of interest from the opposite sex before engaging in any conversation or any thing else. Somehow I ended up married though. Go figure.
I have REALLY been around in my life, I was IN RADIO for years ROCK DJ 1958 til 1980. I never had a problem with women cause I LOVE EM. My dad always told me BE GOOD TO THE GIRLS,,YOUR MOM’S ONE. I used to hear my friends use STUPID LINES. I was always just NATURAL. Thank the LORD I was born GLIB and have a COMMON SENSE TYPE PERSONALITY. I have been known since childhood for having good communication skills. I agree with the person who sez straight out,WHAT’S YOUR NAME,,HOW YA DOIN’ ?? “GIRLS” are people TOO,,that’s my MOTTO. I ask my DAD once “DAD WHAT DO YA DO IF A GIRL TURNS YOU DOWN??? he told me to just say CALMLY. “I ONLY ASK YOU,,CAUSE I KINDA FELT SORRY FOR YOU!! My DAD used to tell me ASK THEM ALL.SURELY ONE OF THEM WILL BE DUMB ENUFF TO GO OUT WITH YOU. Then He’d LAFF.
well i have a very flirty personality… altough i check who i am deliaing with before i respond anything back…. i may anwer fliting back or if its an old man i might just tell tehm off. . . but im sure i would say hey sexy
It depends on how it is said and what it is. Most lines are just lame. I think it is almost cute when the use cheezy pick-up lines. Do I fall for it? No, but it can lead into a better conversation. I still would like a proper “Hello I’m __ and you are?” I think that would be nice. Got to give guys props for being able to talk to some of us.
If a total stranger came up to be and said it, I would be kinda weirded out… whether it was funny or creepy XD
If my boyfriend said it, I’d think it was adorable. We always have a laugh when it comes to pickup lines.
I remember when my grade 8 crush used this one on me in the locker room (classy):
“A bitch is a female dog, female dogs bark, bark is found on trees, trees are a part of nature, and nature’s beautiful.”
That was enough to put me off him for good XD!
Men, Ladies, let me clear things up for you on both sides of the coin. If you go up to a man/woman with honest intent, say hello, introduce yourself and are turned away. That person is not good enough for you to begin with. It is as simple as that, you deserve someone who loves and respects you. If someone decided what kind of person you are at a glance then they are too shallow to find a real partner at this juncture in their lives. So, drop the silly pick up lines, be yourself, learn “hello” as the best way to start a conversation and always be true to yourself. Your lady love or knight in shining armor is just waiting for you to be who you are… with them.
Good luck to all of you!!!
Ladies I understand that pick up lines are not exactly what you want to hear when a man wants to try to meet you but, unfortunately that is what so many of us have been taught. If you want to change this then I suggest that you tell your sons brothers, nephews etc. We well generally do what we learn will attract you. (Take big houses money and nice cars.. many of us buy that crap tar attract women. Usually we just want to work on the car and build things in the house get it?)
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they are just vulgar and have no manners, all these guys with lines. They can’t converse with people, and have nothing to say. They’d better learn manners, and maybe read a book or two to be able to hold a decent conversation.
A normal approach would be to introduce himself, and briefly state his intentions.
Can women, or do women even feel relaxed enough to have a conversation of any merit, with a total stranger in a bar? Are trust levels in both sexes so painfully low that our defense systems ( fear ) refuse to even allow us the ability to really even listen or understand someone new, unless said stranger is introduced to us by a friend working with “homeland security”.
Men. just say, “Are you busy?” If they say no, sit.
This shows respect for their scheduled free time.
I only wanted to say that pickup lines, whether they are sometimes not funny, or rude, or gross, or are told when you just are not in the mood of being called babe by a total stranger, are always harmless, Deep inside, girls sometimes like them and if nobody tries to approach them, they go back home feeling disappointed, like, “what’s wrong with men?so many guys took a glance at me but none of them dared to talk to me, what’s wrong here?”, besides, it is also an ego boost sometimes.
So a big THANK YOU to all the men who have ever tried a pickup line, or just a shy hi! and please, keep trying! Who knows, it might work some day.
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I tend to think of pick-up lines as greetings used to charm you into their bed.
I’m not interested in launching myself into someone’s bed. If the guy instead said, “Hello” or admitted to eavesdropping and had some intelligent thing to say in reaction to what he overheard, I might be more inclined to respond to that instead of a pick-up line–as it indicates he is more interested in having a conversation and not an animal.
how come it works if you’re british ‘G’??
I don’t think an accent makes much difference
i am a cowboy and i stopped going to bars a couple of years ago.from my perspective i would rather face off with a bull or a rank horse than try to come up with a cute or funny pickup line i mean it is hard enough to walk up to a pretty woman without tripping all over myself and look like an idiot,but throw in 30 or more wolves that regularly prowl the bars and to the woman you are automaticaly seen as just another wolf.most who do actually talk to me were just using me so they can get to one of my friends ,so i gave up.i am too old to play games and most of the people in the bars are more into games than being real.
lol. I can’t help but enjoy reading everyone’s post. I actually get a kick from stuff like this. But I’m with the people that don’t mind those pick up lines when they are used just to be funny and break the ice. I guess it’s hard to do it in a way that isn’t creepy. Saying hey is the best way.. commenting on a sports team they are watching or a pro politic shirt. Just find some common ground to chat about or even play debate about.
Yeah I’m not down for the creepers with the pick up lines. My friends and I say cheesy pick up lines to each other but unless it was cute and fresh I don’t think I’d give it a second thought. This guy one time who was a bit older came to me and said “So, how do you like your eggs in the morning?” I replied with “Unfertilized.” and walked away. Gotta love the anti-pick up lines!
Are you kidding me? Men,if you dont have enough balls to say hi then shut your mouth and dont say anything.Thats extremely awkward and embarassing for a woman to be in a place and be hit on by some loser who cant say hi.We’re simple creatures.”Hi.You look really nice.Can I buy you a drink?” Simple.Done.Learn it.
one time a guy came up to me while i wz working…he spoke a little english and my french was really poor but he wz sly enough to get my number. he wanted me to spell his name in my mother tongue (which doesnt use english alphabets) and then write my name next to his…he then added his number next to his name and then pushed the paper towards me indicating that i should do the same next to my name. i cud barely put pen to paper cuz i was laughing so hard.
i dunno if it qualifies as a pick up line as there were few words exchanged.
so to answer your question, yes i do respond positively to a pick up line like the one i just described cuz it totally caught me offguard…but as for the lame, cheesy, stereotypical ones i just smile it off and walk away. I would advise men to have an unusual pick up line or method up their sleeve, or to pick a wide topic (e.g. the olypics) for discussion before they say hello bcuz like some smart men/women already stated,,sayin hello and then discussing personal details could sound routine and boring.
Bein a guy, I’ve never used a pickup line. I prefer the Mystery method. I’ll walk up to a set (a group of people), pick my target and ignore em. I’ll ask the group a question and root it with a reason. I kinda like the magic opener. “Hey, I gotta get back to my friends (false time constraint to make them think I’m leaving), but I have a quick question. You you guys believe magic works? Reason I ask is cause my friend’s ex girlfriend says she cast a hex on him and he’s been having a run of bad luck. Just need an outside opinion.” That usually gets the group to open up. Then I’ll follow up with something else and start an actual conversation. While still on the magic thing I may turn to my target and ask her to help with a test of magic usually with a quick number trick. My favorite is where you ask em to pick a number 1 through 4 and you’ll guess it. More often than not it’s 3. Then follow up with 1 through 10. It’s usually 7. I’d have to say this kind of approach is a lot better than any pickup line.
Yeah, I think pick up lines are really corny unless they try to make you laugh at them! But I’d rather just have someone say “Hey, what’s ur name?” and buy me a drink.
Just smile and say hello and ask if they would like a drink and compliment them on what they are wearing. 9 times out of 10 you can tell whether a girl likes you or not (in a relationship/snog way) within 10 minutes.
Women just smile at a guy or keep looking over at the guy you like. If they are not totally stupid they should come over.
hey baby, whats your sign?
no entry
Pick up lines are stupid, and the women who fall for them are just as stupid.
A pick up line is an obvious indicator that the person using the pick up line is putting up a front, and usually is covering up who he really is.
It works a lot better if any man was to just approach the woman, be a gentelman, and be who he really is. If a man turns a woman off be cause of of displaying his true personality, than that person either needs to change who he really is, or find a woman who is on his level.
But never fake the funk, it always sets them up for failure in the long run, considering anyone can only pretend to be another person for so long………….
from what i can tell… women don’t understand men, and men don’t really get women… it is intimidating to just talk to someone, whether in a bar, club or party… so on women’s end, cut the guys some slack… they try… and on the men’s end, if you’re in it for a good time, go find a prostitute… and good luck to the guys genuine and to the ladies who are looking for a true friend…
I recently heard from my female roommate (20yr old) that some guys were spying on her with binoculars from down the street and they told her so. So to avoid feeling creepy about it, she went over and befriended them. I guess even the really really really bad lines work sometimes.
Hmm.. some chat up lines are pretty funny though and some crack me right up.
Like
Hi my names Pogo. Would you like to jump on my stick?
XDD
I honestly believe if he were cute it wouldn’t have mattered what he said. you’d have gone home with him–but because you found him unattractive he creeped you out with a stupid line.
I would not respond at all…unless it;s something like “Hey, lady, I think your car got stolen!”
lol i think these are hilarious:p
i laugh when guys use these
ahhahahaha one time i got “are you a parking ticket, ’cause you got fine written all over you”
lmfao that one was kinda weird, no lies
Im SORRY but here is a funny one
do you have a mirror in your pants because i see my self in them
and
You know, you would think guys would try a different tatic with girls. I mean,they automattically go up to us and admit: I want to do you, and exopect a dat!? I think they are soo better off tyrying to be our friends than trying to get us into bed the moment we meet, right? A much better turn on…,.
I would much rather be approached with a smile and a hello. That is so much more inviting than, “I spotted you from across the room…” Whatever. Oh, and I cannot stand when a boy uses nicknames with me, like Shorty or Red or if they whistle or say, “Hey.” No, I don’t respond to that kind of thing. Approach me as a gentleman would. I’ll accept nothing less.
Tired “lines,” to me, convey a desperate attempt to pursue a girl. Plus some of these lines are very direct, and promote zero challenge at all. (“are you a parking ticket, ’cause you got fine written all over you”). Women have probably heard “you’re hot” or “can I buy you a drink” all night. Be indirect, and challenge her a bit. Don’t give the compliments until she gives the compliments first. Hope this helps!
Well I’d just walk straight up to her and tell her that she is really hot. (I’d hope that she or I would be single though)
no, just kidding. I’d just sit next to her, wait for the right moment, say hi, introduce myself. Engage in conversation, get her number, etc.
One example of a pick-up line that worked!
Of course, he was already a friend first… so I knew he wasn’t creepy! lol
The man I have been seeing for over 18 months now was a friend who I hung out with and talked to nearly every day. We both sort of secretly liked eachother. One night, out celebrating a mutual friend’s birthday (I had asked him for a ride), he leaned over my shoulder and whispered in my ear that he was going to be ready to go soon and he was wondering “Should I take you home or should I take you home?” and when I gave him a funny look he said “Those are two completely different options.”
Want know which one I picked?
As a guy, I think pick up lines are funny. I use them only when it is towards a girl that I never planned on actually getting to know, it’s more of a joke. So if a girl has a pick up line used on them, consider it more of an insult and an advance. If I am interested, I say “Hi, I’m Jesse. How are you doin?”
I had a would be Romeo tell me he would love to get in my pants and love me all night long. Best response I could come up with was sorry, I only had room in there for one as$ hole at a time.
A pick up line like: Excuse me, I’m a little short on cash, would you mind if we shared a cab home together? Is creepy and shows that a guy has only one thing on his mind. I know when a guy talks to a girl, he finds her attractive but can they be a little less…. egotistical about it?
“How much does an elephant weigh?”
“I don’t know.”
“Me either, but its enough to break the ice.”
Its kinda cute and shows he has a sense of humor about pick up lines. I might actually talk to a guy who used that one.
I have the “pretend to be way to cool for him” disease. Even if i’m interested, I role my eyes and walk away.
Here’s a pickup line that worked (for me, not him)
” Can I call you sometime?”
” Sure ! ”
“But I don’t know your number!”
” It’s in the phone book.”
” But I don’t know your name!”
” It’s in the book too.. Byby”
I walked up to this gal in the bar one night (18 years ago now) and said “Can I buy you a drink?” she asked me why and my answer was so stupid I’m surprised it worked… I said” Because I’m horny and you are beautiful.” We have been married for 17 years now. Go figure………..
thank god someone asks a question about this (i was thinking about it the other day) the best way to pickup a girl is to start with a hello and then go on about the things the person is interested in just to get them interested in u (only if ur a good listener) also if i try to pickup a girl with a pickup line i’d use 1 never used before like some one said and something expressing my self. the only reason i have a girl-friend is because i am a good listener, like if i see some one stressed out i’d start with a hello and then say you look like you’ve had a rough day, mind telling me what happened?…thats the only things i use to pickup a girl…
my sign is no entry, I dont think the lines work but they are funny
hey ladies,
No am not here to hit on you all but to answer the question.
So why do us guys use chat up lines? Easy, if she laughs you know u may have a shot if she backs off etc then you know to back off. It like testing the water but in a good way, Guys fear rejection just as much as women. i know i do!
~The chat up line approach is so if a girl response is bad they can just laugh it off with mates and go oh well, If it works then youve borken the ice, the laugh and smiles make it more relaxed you look for the eye contact and go from there.
Garry
What is wrong with: “Hello, my name is _________, is this seat taken?” Coming up with a “line” makes me think that he is not confident.
Its so funny when I get pick up lines..I think its like a game really where they see if it actually works or not just for fun. I mean I had a guy walk over to me and said are you an angel? Because i could see you glow from far away. And that did make me smile but also laugh inside lol it was soo funny. And then there was pickup lines like “Your my door key, go to my house, unlock my door, and meet me in my bed”. LOL my neighbor told me that when he was very very drunk!
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Yeah, whatever happened to “Hi, how are you? My name is ____. Mind if I sit down for a few minutes?”
who the hell uses pick up lines anymore!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
everyone just stop it please you are giving guys a bad rep and you are making us look stupid. Like the genii said in Aladdin, “Beeeeeeee yourself.” but just like every other guy Aladdin does it anyway. But he learned eventually that being himself will get the girl. hopefully this will happen to everyman on the face of the earth so us guys can have a better rep. on the bright side it leaves funny stories for girls to tell.
Honestly, guys who use pickup lines are pathetic. I think it means that they’re too scared to just say, “Hi, my names is…..” If someone were to walk up to me and say a really corny pickup line, I’d walk away. But, if he walks up to me and tells me “Hi” and his name, I’d give him the time of day.
This morning, 8/27/08, the cartoon strip
“BC” had the best response to a pick up line:
BC : “What’s your sign, baby”?
Chick: STOP
I just start a conversatoin about anything.
I realized that girls like a lot of the bands im into, so i listen to my ipod a lot, and if a girl asks me who im listening to, I just say its Panic At The Disco, which starts a converstin
The worst is when they try to speak your language if your not from their country. I’ve had that soo many times. It’s really bad when they over do it too.. a few attempts are fine but when they try to have a conversation and your like what.. ha.. thats when i get really annoyed.
I was only ever asked the what’s-your-sign question once, and I responded with the two-fingered “peace sign” and said nothing. He didn’t get it…..which I found terribly closed-minded and because of that his attempt failed miserably. The one pick-up line which worked well on me because it simply took me by surprise was, hey baby, you are ravishing!” Decades later, I still think fondly of that moment.
The dating scene it rough and pickup lines, while stupid in general, are usually the best someone can do to break the ice. Pitty the man that uses them because he’s doing the best he can and is at least trying. Too many guys sit in the corner because they are flat out afraid to talk to women these days. ( too many sexual harassment suits and butt whoopins to worry about these days) Not to mention the number of married people is like way way up so the chances of finding someone actually single is rare. And be honest ladies, if you even have a hint that a guy might be somewhat interested in you – and you are not – you will drop the word boyfriend into the conversation in some way no matter what it takes. I’ve heard some duzzies when I was just trying to get a cup of coffee, not a date. The potential for a guy to get shot down or run over by women these days is rediculous, so why not use a line and get it over with. Can’t say I’ve done it (I’m still the guy in the corner) but I admire the guys who make the attempt.
My favorite pick up line: Hey baby can I put my key in your ingnition to see if I can turn you on.
If a guy came up next to me to order a drink, I would ask what drink he was getting. That leads to either an argument over how good/bad a drink is or an “oh those are good!”. You’re basically starting a conversation that deals with why you are both at the bar.
I’ve never used pickup lines. But one day I made one up almost by accident.
“If cuteness was a crime, you would be in jail for life”
I haven’t used it on anybody. I think it’s something I would say to my girlfriend when I’m doting on her or something.
i think lame pickup liness are attractive
Women get all dressed up in nice new clothes, get manicures and pedicures, expensive haircuts, live in a tanning bed, spend hours on their makeup, and then go out and act like they have zero interest in men and that anyone who speaks to them is a dangerous pervert.
So I don’t even bother with them anymore.
Years ago, I made a vow that I would never set foot in
a bar again. I’ve never regretted it.
as a guy..i never use these. but if i had to: I put the STD in stud now all i need is you
ok i heard this weird one before it went like this “can i have a picture of you so santa knows what i want” it was kinda cute
A GUY — How is that STD line a pick-up?? Please, please, please be joking.
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So what is your sign, Yamster?
I have heard them all – From “did it hurt – when you feel from heaven” to “That dress is very comely on you, if I was on you I would be cumming too” YUK
A man walked up to me and said “I could help but notice how beautiful you are…my name is_______” We have been together for 8 years and have a beautiful little boy.
Women like open honesty not cheesy pick up lines.
Men are downright stupid, but women are insane. That’s why pickup lines occasionally work.
I’m Chinese/Taiwanese-American, and my favorite pick-up line was when I went into a British pub one night and this guy said “You know, I’ve dated a Korean girl before.”
I said, “What’s your point? So have I.”
I have to say that what a guy says when he comes up to me has little affect on whether I’ll consider him or not… honestly if I like the way he looks I won’t mind whether it’s some lame line or a simple “Hello.”
as long as it’s nothing disgusting, that is. Really graphic come-ons feel less like flirtation and more like harassment.
lol.
its too bad that all you women do is put down us men for trying to start conversations and break the ice when it comes to meeting for the first time. we have to do all the work; all you girls do is sit at the bar by yourselves or with friends and just wait for us to come say something- you never have to go start a conversation yourself so you dont know how hard it really is. i wish you could be in our positions when nobody will ever talk to you and you have to work your ass off just to find somebody to be with you- then you wouldnt be so disrespectful and make fun of us for trying because then you would know what its like. maybe if the tides turned and you were alone for months and not one single guy ever talked to you then what would you do? exactly, just what we’re doing now. so show some respect and try to understand that it is alot different for us guys because you girls really have it way too easy and its not fair to put us down like you always do
say this: If I could rearrange the alphabet, I’d put F and U together.
I have never heard a pickup line from any man; but my friends and i have fun making fun of men that use them. I think the funniest one we’ve ever talked about was “did you fart because you blew me away.” it’s sad but funny.
As guys we use those lines because sometimes they do work but they have only worked when the girl seems to have a good sense of humor. But then again even that is hard to tell will be able to take the joke. Pathetic lines that have been used are ones that I use but I use them in a joking manner knowing that that they aren’t going to get me anywhere but maybe a conversation. That is half the battle.
personally,i would just smile and ask a question-hi i luv your top where did you get it(but obviously somthing better than that) i helps to be normal and have your brain fall out.
Well, I think guys just need to get a life, and start treating ,not only girls, but perople right! They think there ssssoooo cool because they hava “cool” pick up line, I mean, COMMON!!!!!!! Get a life!
i think who ever T is, that was a really good idea!
I understand that men uses pick up lines to startup a converstation however, it only makes them look foolish. We women say this because there is an alternative way of starting up a conversation and thats called “introducing yourself”. I think men have all forgotten about the simple “Hello my name is ___ and yours?” Those who uses pick up lines are simply the ones that wants to have a fling. So take notes guys would your rather get a name and be respected or make a fool out of yourself with no name and no number?
I don’t know if this qualifies, but it sure is funny.
I was walking down the street behind 2 attractive ladies, when I overheard a couple of businessmen having a butt outside their office make a comment as the ladies walked by:”Gee, I’d like to get in her pants!” One of the women turned around and replied: “Sorry, I’ve already got one a**hole in there!” I almost fell over laughing.
I was at a supermarket, then I saw this really nice girl. At the cashier. i said “Hi, how r u? she replied “Oh, hi i’m fine” .
I saw my chance and try to start a conversation “Nice weather huh?”.. The she said ” Yea,… seconds later it started to rain, immediately. We both look outside, and we both looked at each other. then she started to laugh. We both get to know each other after that. We’ve become best friend till now.
I mean is, sometimes luck really helps. It’s better than any “creative” pick up lines.
but too bad she’s a lesbian…
I tend to use pickup lines for humor mostly and see how a girl would react to it. I normally use the stupid ones or ones that ’should’ get a laugh.
I like women with a sense of humor and this is one way to sift through the possible candidates. But to be honest… I meet more if I simply use the “Hi my name is T.J.” approach.
Depends if I want to narrow down the possibilities quickly or spend the night meeting several different women to find we don’t quite match up.
So ladies.. give a laugh and tell the guy that was probably the worst pickup line you have ever heard and see how they respond. If they laugh it off and admit to it.. maybe its worth a chat.. if they get offended.. throw the drink in their face and make for the door before the stinging in their eyes stop.
Good luck.. LoL
When I was single, I would crack up in front to the guy and make him talk to me like he had some sense.
An obvious pickup line can be an amusing ice-breaker. I have found that HOW something is said or done can be far more valuable in getting the desired result, as opposed to WHAT is actually being said or done. Sometimes it’s all in the delivery!!!
As an alternative, a polite and genuine compliment can make a lady feel flattered. Asking for her opinion or advice can show her that you know she is not just a sex object. And when at a bar, sending the lady a drink or asking her to play some pool or darts with you can also be an awesome ice-breaker.
i just make them laugh, and depending on their reaction, i keep the conversation going or leave them alone. but i also don’t date american women anymore. im 48 and i like girls in their early 20s… women in the usa over 35 butch up and get fat, have kids, ect ect. they are greedy mostly and are more worried about what i own than who i am. girls in asia don’t care about the age difference so i spend most of my time there. god bless the philippines!! american women are a joke.
Just be REAL! Nice is another term that comes to mind if it is real.
Women are very bright and pick up on the slightest gestures. Corny just doesn’t fly!
Oh . . . and show me the R-E-S-P-E-C-T that I deserve!! :>)
Cheers!
frankly i m a flirty kind of person and fun loving so i just love those cheesy pick up lines, it makes sure that the concerned person is so interesting.But still if i would not have been in the mood to flirt with the concerned guy then my reply on his question of what is ur sign would have been LESBIAN
Okay, let’s get this straight. I don’t go to clubs, bars, or any of those places. Honestly, what do girls expect to get? I have many ‘friends’ who dress in a revealing way, make-up to the nines, high heels, go and get comments at these places and then complain to me afterwards that they got all these seedy men! I don’t understand… If you don’t want these guys (like me), don’t go there in the first place!
Second, when a man comes up to us (that we don’t know), let’s face it, girls: we tend to look them up and down and have a good look at their faces. Could we think straight and strike up a guy we don’t know but like without some kind of crutch (such as a pick-up line)?
my friends and i use pick up lines as a joke 100% of the time, if you get a girl with a vile and retarded line, you are considered god