On a Friday night at a crowded club, I was doing the single girl thing — you know, drinking overpriced drinks and looking disaffected when a guy leaned over to me and said:
“Heeeey, is your shirt expensive? ‘Cuz you look so hot in it, I could totally rip it off of you right now. But I would totally replace it, if it’s not too expensive.”
I chuckled awkwardly, and then frantically looked for the exit sign.
Later that night, my friends and I had fun laughing about this frugal-minded Romeo. But we wondered: Why do men use these silly lines, and do they ever work? Most single women I know have endless stories about bad pickup lines that make us cringe and run for the door. These lukewarm icebreakers can run from the typically cheesy (“If I could rearrange the alphabet, I would put U and I together.”) to the creepy (“I’m new in town — can I have the directions to your apartment?”). It’s hard to imagine any woman falling for these come-hither tactics.
I’ll admit that approaching a stranger at a bar takes a lot of nerve — even women have trouble coming up with ways to start a conversation with men. But most women will agree that a clever come-on line is a big turn off and likely to backfire. A better approach might simply be a friendly smile or “hello” followed by genuine conversation.
Ladies, how are you likely to respond to an obvious pickup line, and what would you recommend as an alternative? Gentlemen, what do you think is the best way to approach women?
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