Answers, will you be my valentine?
Well, it’s Valentine’s Day. If you believe the media hype, it’s a day brimming with spontaneous romance, champagne bubble baths, and rose petals strewn from the front door to the boudoir door. But what about those of us who fly solo on this day for lovers? Should we bury our heads and hearts in the metaphorical sand and ignore the day? I don’t think so. In lieu of a sending myself a clutch of red roses and a heart-shaped box of chocolates (pathetic, huh), I think I’ll spend my Valentine’s Day curled up with the warm, romantic glow of Answers emanating from my computer screen.
It’s no surprise that being alone on Valentine’s Day is a popular topic on Answers. It looks like a lot of singles plan to unite and spend the day with each other. And why not? Gathering friends together for a special meal or a game night seems like an ideal way to drown the V-day sorrows. Spending some quality time with family is another great way to honor the day for loved ones. Some suggest taking a moment to do something special for yourself. If you can’t love yourself, who can you love, right? Personally, I’m inspired by the fact that Valentine’s Day coincides with Random Acts of Kindness Week, so I’ll look for little opportunities to do a good turn for unsuspecting fellow citizens. It’s winter in
Is Valentine’s Day only for sweethearts? If you’re single, how do you celebrate Valentine’s Day?
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Yes I am single! I celebrate Valentine’s Day by relaxing and having a good cup of coffee!
Its rubbish when your single. Everybody makes a big deal of it when they are in a couple and the single people feel really left out. I make hand made cards so i made some valentines day ones, I left them on my desk at work and my boss decided to write one of them for me as he didnt want the people he knew would not be getting one to feel left out. I did not find this to be a nice gesture.
If you single you could be your own valentine take a nice hot bath and relax with a god movie like me.(smile)
Have A Nave: USA
Happy S a i n t T T e Valentine
Just another day
I see Valentines Day as a day to celebrate being single. Just like when I am in a couple I see it as a day to celebrate being in a couple. It is just a happy day. So tonight I will probably make myself a nice dinner and either rent a movie or go out to the movies.
well will you be mine /or not well you have till 12 midnight to say yes
How ever did you know that I would be alone for valentines day. An eligible as well! Dressed to kill and no one around.
I feel single and I’m not, I got a man and kids. But theres never been any romance on Valentines. I like getting things at other times of the day when so many people aren’t out. It does make people left out but I think its more for kids and school parties. But its nice about the Randon acts of kindness week. Those little things add up to people just because. That is way better than a box of candy and roses that the price is jacked up on. Yes its nice but if people donated that money on someone with nothing how much better would those people feel?
It is so much fun when you are single. This year I am going out to a lavish dinner with my guy friend, then having another dinner with my girls and later on to the “singles only” club so I can flirt with whoever I want, when I want and how I want. I can also dance sexy with them and not have to worry about their girlfriends getting jealous and starting drama. Seriously, this is more fun than I would have with a boyfriend
Well I havent been single in a while but every year that I was my dad always made sure I was sent flowers, so even if I felt a tad lonely I never felt left out. As a matter of fact becasue of this post I just called my dad to wish him a Happy Valentines Day, and the big lug of a man got all mushy. If it is a day for love why not use it as a day for you family and friends …and yourself…
well,I walked today watching couples enjoying thier time or pretending to, but I do liked to watch those whose lovers whose eyes were smiling and shining as a result of true love than those who were diguising as lovers in order to please people around them, as a matter of fact I would like to call them actors, but actually they are really bad ones,as they donot realize that life is too short to spend time pretending.so it doesnot matter to have a date, what is really important is to be in real love.
Don’t try to fool yourselves. It sucks being alone on Valentine’s day and you can’t help but feel depressed. It’s not just one day, you miss that relationship you had last year with someone special, and you can try to hide your feelings but deep down your charade will not last. Let’s not celebrate this day but recollect and remember the past and prepare for the future.
I don’t think that there is anything wrong with spending Valentine’s day to yourself. I’ve been single for going on 3 years now and I really don’t mind it. It’s good to be alone for a while because you learn a lot about yourself. But one thing I will do for sure, is wait unitl either Friday or Saturday, and go go buy the chocolates that are half off and kick back at the house with a bottle of red wine. And that’s how I will probably end up spending my V-Day but for all of those who are single (like myself) I hope that you have a Happy Super Thursday!!!!
Valentines day is a day to Celebrate being Single *lol* in some way’s….today was shopping day at the Grocery store… the wrong day to go I know!! but anyway just watching all people hurry here and hurry there and everybody buying this and buying that…. it’s more nerve wracking than Christmas and I feel a sense of relief not having to worry about buying my sweetheart or hubby the perfect gift and worry that if I don’t get them the perfect give that they will be hurt….ugh just thinking about it all gives me a headache *lol* nope I celebrate Valentine day as love myself day….sound selfish?? no..not completly I show my family I love them and everything… but I plan on pampering myself with a well deserved hot bath tonight!! *lol*
and don’t forget the self indulgent chocolate *lol*
Enjoy!! Celebrate your Singleness : )…..
I honestly think that Valentines Day is WAY overrated. I’m also single and I don’t feel like that we should have a particular day each year celebrate love because it’s something that should be shown year round in many different ways. t’s another excuse for people to spend tons of money on items that aren’t really needed.
I love this answer. I actually asked a question similar to this on Yahoo! Answers. =D
Hello. I am 15 years old, and I plan to spend tomorrow [Friday, which is Single's Awareness Day] with a couple [about 3] of my friends at the mall to watch Definitely, Maybe. I think it’ll be a great way to not be drag down by all the lovely-dovey couples making out in the school’s hallways, and plus, I brought gifts for my family and friends. I’m having a great Valentine’s Day so far compared to last year, and besides, school’s more important for us teenagers at the moment. I’ll be enjoying my Valentine’s Day after I get out of college, though!
And for all the Singles out there: Happy almost Single’s Awareness Day! =]
it is very depressing because i am single only reson i am single is because i am 13 and my wheight is 245 you should not judge a book by it cover but whats inside is what matters to me . will you be my Valentine
its like SINGLE AWARNESS DAY for those of us who are single.
Naw I dont believe the media hype but I do believe Valentines Day is a day to enjoy with loved ones
Since I am alone I plan on loving and spoiling myself! I plan on getting a pedicure and taking a nice hot bubble bath, light some candles, play some jazz, and sip on a nice drink of vodka and cran lol.
I can’t remember the last time I had a “Valentine” date. I worked in a hotel/restaruant for years and it was my least favorite holiday, it just reminded me how alone I was. Everyone came 2 by 2, and the guys often wanted me to put an engagement ring into a glass of water or on top of a dessert. I declined siting liability.
Now, I call a girl friend who I think may be alone (either singe or a husband out of town) and invite her to dinner. I even buy a small gift. I also give other friends small gifts.
Plus I buy myself a big bouquet of flowers, usually the day after when left-overs go on sale. I enjoy flowers and buy them frequently but on V.Day I get roses.
All this just to stay out of the “mully-grubs”!!!!
I was off today and saw some of the Valentine segments on the morning shows. So much pressure to find the right gift, hidden meanings in flowers. Glad I’m single now. Probably not glad tomorrow.
i was kinda a little down about this holiday until this morning i walked out side and there was a beutiful pinkish red sunrise .GOD is one awsome Valintine
Valentine day is over rated.
Media hype aside, flower meanings and colour altogether left out, this is, indeed a beautiful day. A day that celebrates LOVE. The only answer.
I am loved by many people, but not attached. My last attempt at a relationship muddled its way into murkiness a few weeks ago. We did manage to make some plans for tonight – simple, small-scale attend a gallery opening together. Nothing big. So, that’s not happening. With him. I will go, just know I’ll feel a little sore…
I did try to have a great day so far. I spoiled myself with a bath, took a nap, and got a million messages from friends and family. And that is Love. And that’s how I know I’m loved and I love them too. But (always a but) I couldn’t help feeling the litte pang of sorrow at the thought that, yet again, I have been unable to hang on to love when it came along.
Long live singlehood!
yeah … I think Valentines Day is way overrated. I really hate it. I don’t mean to be bitter when I say that, but there’s no denying that I actually AM very bitter about it. I know some people say you have to be a certain age to be and love … but I’m a teen and i dont believe that. And it really tugs on the strings of my heart to walk through the hallway at school and see couples everywhere exchanging gifts and kisses .. and hugs … and … love. I admitt, I’m very jealous at that. Immeadiately this morning, at my locker, the girl [my friend] at the locker below me gets bombarded with a shower of balloons, and a stuffed animal dog form her boyfriend [her boyfriend also happens to be my friend ... which also happens to be the guy i like ... a lot] And its not that im bitter that theyre together … or that im pittying myself because Ive never had a boyfriend .. It’s just the simple fact that everyone else has a holiday to celebrate with someone else … and that’s what kills me … because I have no one. I told myself I would refuse to mope on this day .. and ill stick to that. I have will-power. And … really, today is just anothere day … All as I can think is that maybe, just maybe one day Valentines day will actually mean something important to me – not just a shrug off my shoulders. I don’t want gifts .. or candy … or silly heart balloons. i want love. But dont we all? …
i dont really like v-day im always single and it sucks! i try to have a good day but whatever =[
ya i would love to be ur valentine
Me and my boyfriend are miles apart, so I spent time with my family and my cat! Pets are WoNdErFuL, especially when you are having a bad day.
I’m flying solo,this will be my 5th year! While ,I do wish there were a special man in my life! I’m glad for others who are with their special someone!
I’m blessed to be with family,and just “chillin” with them is wonderful!
We’ve gone through some rough days together and apart! I love them!
And where ever “my special man” is now,until we meet to share future Valentine’s Days.I keep my heart open and my mind flowing with ideas I want to share with him,then.
Happy Valentines Day!!!!!!!!
its a day that makes u say ahh man i need someone …. funny enough didnt care at all about this till tis year for some reason.. 4 years of HS always single on this day and till now not did not have a care in the world …this day sucks ..also got pulled over for no good reason ….yaay Valentines day!!
ohhh by the way anyone else that feels this way…please dont be afraid to say HI lol Names Bhavin and u can IM me at desiathate… lol
How you see yourself alone on any a day like this tells alot about how you are. If you are lonely, that tells you how dependent you are. If you are happy and spending as on any other day of any year, then commercialism (or a suggested significant other) has not binded your personal actions. Try this for a week, be happy boundlessly each and everyday instead of working by other’s criteria.
yeah im single and it kinda sucks. last year my valantines day resulted in some Gas-x after bad chinese food. i wish i could get some dome right now no wait make that silver dome baby yeah. but yeah i wont get any this v day =/
I hate Valentine’s Day. It’s awkward for people who have a significant other (what are you supposed to do for it?) and its depressing for the rest of us. And candy hearts are gross.
I am single ; now also,but it really doesn’t bother me cause today the majority of my ex’s all came around and brought me a valentines Day gift;not at the same time ,but all through out the day; I am sitting here looking at all my gifts thinking how blessed I must be to have my ex’s as friends; So Valentine’s day to me isn’t just another Day ;It’s a day to be grateful
Hi,
I have never actually considered Valentine’s Day any more special than a regular Thursday (on which I gear up to watch The Simpsons – woo hoo!!). I even forgot until I remembered – ha ha!
Anyway, V day is just another day to me. Just because others say you must have a date, you must NOT be single, you will be thrown into the lake of fire if you are… no wait… sorry, been watching horror movies way too much lately…
Just because others say it’s true sometimes doesn’t mean it is – does it? I’ll let you decide.
And btw, love should not be restricted to one day – so don’t just think “Okay, i can make it up on v day and everything will be okay”.
Well… that’s just me… but if couples/singles wanna have this special day to bloom/groom/groan/cry, go ahead.
Cheers,
HWT
what I did today was, I went to feed the hungry.
We fed 30 families that were so in need of help. When the families walk up to our food pantry. they recieve open arms, smiles. someone to listen to them, and wonderful food. What I am saying is when you show love to the people that need it. God makes your heart filled with joy. It is amazing
I heard of a lady who is single and she hosts single ladies night out every valentines. You have to learn how to acccept every stage of your life. And valentines can also be about love for your friends.
I made myself a cake I even have a picture of it as my YA! Avatar
I’m recently divorced after 7 years, so today was kinda weird. I shaved of my beard for the first time in about 15 years for a job interview, and low and behold a car full of college girls actually honked at me and waved! I had a steak dinner with my dad (who’s wife is working out of town :-{ ), and our good friend Dave. I chalk it up as a good day. Beer, friends, and family helps…a new job would more.
The business world have really eaten this one up. It’s a shame that so many have fallen for it. I have seen alot of couples that wish, they were single. Some of the people in them feel alone even having some one else in their lives. Too many holidays have lost their meaning. Have a happy day and don’t fall for it. Have you seen how much they are charging for flowers today? And if we are single or have some there, why do we need to have one more day to blow money or fight because we did not do enough? I hope every one has a good day and a good one tomm.
Seriously… If we want it that bad we can go out there and get it. There’s a reason why some of us are single.
Right now I’m single… it kind of sucks because I’m still in love with my ex but who cares. Went to gym, cooked a healthy dinner, had 1/2 bottle of delicious wine, and watched LOST with roommate. I’m not waiting by the phone and look forward to tomorrow being another day. FRIDAY!!! WOOOO HOOO!
Love. Love. Lost.
V.D. is just that. I prefer to ignore that anything is happening and just go on with me life. I still had to go to lecture, take notes, and answer quiz questions. I spent most of my day after class with my girlfriends in the sun lying in the grass. It’s a brilliant day when the sun shines in Hum Co, no matter the date.
Celebrating hearts day with someone special is a very nice thing. But if you don’t have that “someone special” try to look around, perhaps someone is also alone and searching. Believe in your dreams, coz we all know that Love always finds a way.
While in the West, people fall in and out of love/marriage and are still socially accepted, in India and similar environments, I strongly suggest we don’t ape the west. The idea is very romantic and the experience of merely being with someone (not necessarily having sex or fondling each other) who loves you (at least for the moment) highly pleasurable. However, all human beings are possessive and grow evenmore so with age, even in the forward west(!). a few years later when you get married (particularly girls), these short lived romances could backfire. Your very marriage may not occur if the prospective parents-in law are conservative and egoistic. Your hubby could nag you as a cheap flirt (I’m using very mild words) if he chooses to. ‘Well meaning’ relatives and friends, yes friends, could egg him on. Someother woman who has an eye on him, could also do the same – yes, women are the best predators of women! Think. The line ‘ and they lived happily ever after in most fairy tales’ has rarely been seen in marriages that were triggered by romance. Long lived happy marriages have been fuelled by mutual care and concern and rarely if ever by romance. Study the relationship between your parents if you come from a happy family. Why do I stress married life, because that’s were you’ll spend the major part of your life. You will have to be responsible not only to yourself and your hubby, but your kids as well.
Men/Boys generally have it good for them irrespective of their character. The world excuses them after all, almost all religions have records of polygamy BC – no questions asked! Except for the pitiable few who are beaten by their wives, the majority will not be affected by what they do on, before or after valentine’s day.
Any way, though this advice could be useful to any yuong boy/girl, it is mainly directed at Indians, who look forward to a happy married life.
I’d definitely suggest that the married ones take the valentine’s day seriously though. Stop taking your spouses for granted. Bring a little bit of excitement, of romance into their lives. It never is too late to say
‘ I love you’, to your spouse.
UUGHHHHGHHHH! Im glad its over!
Oh I always love Valentine’s Day even though I’m still single. At least I have a crush (hehehe). And just seeing him makes my Valentine’s Day complete!
Ya wanna know what i did today. i realized why I am single. presently, both my x husband and my x boyfriend are living under the same roof with myself and two kids. (xhusband daddy). ironic isn’t it!! no sex, trust me… so, i’m feeling down casue they have their hotties, somewhere… and i never recieved a dozen roses.. not once.. ever.. 8 years with the x hubby and 8 years (on and off) with the xboyfriend, and not once did they go outa their way to make this day any different than any other day,. however, my son, soon to be 16 bought me a beautiful bouquet of fresh red roses in a beautiful glass vase. and he said ” the hell with them, happy valentines mom… I love you.” and my daughter gave me a card that made me feel so special and loved. !! so yea, today was good. it reminded me of why i am single and how blessed I am to have so much love and such caring kids. ya’ all enjoy life, as best as u can.. cuz life isn’t fair.. and if anyone told you it is, well they lied. so relax, do life and …..absorb it… cuz it goes by quickly. Peace
I visited our church then I lit a red candle. I also prayed for my two friends who’s having there birthday on valentines. You don’t need to be involved on a romantic relationship just to enjoy valentines day, you can feel it’s essence still even if you’re spending it with family memebersand friends.
i celebrated with bunch of friends on v-day and it was awesome! if u’re signle it doesnt mean that u can’t celebrate and have fun on v-day.
I celebrated by going to karaoke with my two best friends who were also flying solo. One is single. The other’s boyfriend is out of the country. We had a great time and my singing was the best it’s ever been. Then we headed over to McDonald’s since it’s one of the few 24 hour places open around here when you’re hungry after midnight. We chatted until 4am. We’re still on holiday for the Lunar New Year so no work today…hahaha! I love China.
I’m pretty lonely but I’m not so down that I need the love of a cartoon hamster, thank you all the same!
i think its 4 lovers as its romantic i spent my day shopping and sending love notes n txts 2 my fiance
ii also went to surprise him and it was so romantic we then had a meal cooked by him which he had spent alot of time on
i think u av 2 b in a relationship 4 vday 2 b coolies n spesh u will feel the same wen ur in love all those single ppl out there but i no how it feels to be lonely on vday
i am a psychologyest happy valentinesday
I ‘had’ the attention of two men prior to 2-14-2008.
Both of them made promises to me regarding this day, yet neither came through.
I was very hurt and angry last night, but NO MORE!
In addition to deciding to ‘silently’ kick both of those selfish gentlemen to the curb, I have decided to have no further expectations about men and their responsibility to our relationship on 2-14; in this way, I won’t be disappointed and they won’t get kicked!
Even though this is after the fact, I spent the day in what seemed to be an “altered” state, for lack of a better term. I know my soul mate is out there, just have to wait for the right time and not try to force the issue. Learning, loving, and dreaming of him every day,
hey well yes i had a bf this valentines day but he didnt make it all that great he didnt do anytihng special n got me this simple gift last yr was so much funner with my friends……
this valentines day wasnt good at all i think its so much better 2 spend it with ur friends b/c its way too serious with ur boyfriend all guys are jerks.no matter what kind of guy..they are sweet 4 a couple of months n they change n girls r stupid 4 falllin in love with them valentines day is more wonferdul with ur close friends!!!!!!!:)
Even the ones with Families can be “alone” on Valentines Day, and other holidays as well. Learning to love oneself is important. There is a half dozen of Yellow Roses on my computer desk, and some chocolate, in the drawer to snack on, I have learned to treat myself, rather than wait, for others to do so, somehow they just have not developed that far. Happy Valentines Day to you all.
I want LOVE and Romance everyday! Not just Valentines Day!
ok here’s the scoop. Valentines days a made up holiday that someone made up in order to sell more crap. That’s just how I feel. And Im not saying that for being single. Im actually happily in a relationship and I love him dearly. We give each other gifts whenever we feel like it. or if we see something in the store that we know the other person would like…we get it and give it. I know its officially the day after but this topic is a big issue to a lot of my friends. My stepmom called me to wish me a happy valentines. If it wasnt for my job, I wouldnt even have realized it was valentines. I dont want gifts on valentines because Its my way of telling people how phony this holiday is. Get over it. I hope everyone had a fantastic day for what its worth.
I spent a romantic afternoon alone, distilling chlorophyll from phytoplankton and counting diatom cells on a microscope slide. I am now emotionally fulfilled.
Yes, I thought there was a reason I rarely stray from the Science and Mathematics section.
I was single the day before and I’ll still be single the day after. It’s JUST a Thursday. So I did what I do every Thursday or whatever night of the week. I made myself dinner, watched a movie, and hit the sheets. Even when I’m in relationships I emphasize the regularity of the day.
Just another day in the Trenches!!!
I worked on V-day…but will be celebrating this weekend. Hope I don’t have a heart attack…
if a married person can comment (separated at this time ) it’s meaningless when it’s like a week or two early he runs to walmart, picks out a huge valentine that says something not even remotely like us, buys stuff he doesn’t even know what is if a heart is on it and acts like one of the crappy jobs he has to do is now over. if he’d write one line one a scrap of paper saying one thing about us loving each other , spend 10 min. siting with me, i’d feel like i was loved . that would cost nothing and no heavy lifting or work would be required , not enough time to amount to much would it costs him either. but i’ve only recieved about 6 valentines in the 31 yrs we’ve been married anyway.
two may be lonely, one may be happy,more than two may be so excerting
Valentine day was not so good. I were on my work. No special leave. Same routine work on that day.
valentines day was somewhat good…..the bad part is that i didnt have a valentine…..the good part is that i had a lot of fun
I know how it feels to have a guy that likes you and you think he would ask you out but then he ends up staring at you because he is shy, but he was not shy when he was running around school acting like a jackass. Wait…. isn’t this a My Chemical Romance website. I’m going to go see My Chemical Romance in St.Louis this summer so I hope if I ever get lucky….I GET BACKSTAGE passes, but nothing nasty
Valentines Day
Well, this day for me personally is sad. Not the date, only the fact that I will be alone for the 4th year. I am 27 years and all my friends and everyone around me is getting married. No, am not looking for someone online. It just feels like everything is passing me by. My older sister got married for her second time around and I don’t even have 1 special person. I don’t want to go anywhere, cause there is couples every where you look. I don’t want to watch tv because you couples every where. Married people tells me to enjoy my freedom and singles tell me they are having the time of their lifes. I am single and hating it.